As we approach Halloween I felt it fitting to honor the Princess of Darkness.
Frieda of the Dark
She is a most serious cat and she holds a grudge.
So, matters of no consequence. We took a carload of boxes and bags to Goodwill on Saturday. We picked up my monthly non-wine order at Total Wine and had lunch at Culver's. If you are going to have fast food, that's the food to have. It's actually good. And the frozen custard, don't get me started. The day spent out and about meant I missed at least half of your blogs. I hate to admit that I come home mentally exhausted after being out in the world, but I do. It's what happens when a person with a tendency toward lonerism becomes too isolated. I am working on modifying myself. Stay tuned.
Yes, the stimuli from people and activity is very tiring when you're out of the habit. I suppose happy medium is the goal. Not that I would know much about moderation. When in doubt do all the things!
ReplyDeleteWe have a thing in common, no moderation, Boud. I think my life with horses will testify to that!!
DeleteI look forward to reading about your adventures to get yourself out there more and not feel so drained. Though, being out can be a blood suck. I admire how you work on yourself and keep going. You are an inspiration. Keep up the good work and here's to an oogie boogie Halloween week 🎃
ReplyDeleteBrass yourself for some mind-numbing boredom, Ivy. Grocery store, ummm, grocery store. 😄
DeleteLove your moody kitty! I do miss have cats around, but we had one that preferred the carpet for her 'box' and I am so afraid we might get another cat like that! We have a Culver's nearby. Actually, we've had a few near previous homes. I have gone in to get a custard now and then, but I haven't had their renowned butter burger! We'll need to have an outing some day!
ReplyDeleteI has a cod sandwich, Dreaming. The burgers are really good. I don't think, from my own longtime cat experience, that using the floor as a litter box is common. One of the cats was doing that a couple of years ago. I didn't realize she had a urinary tract infection. Cleared that up and she went bad to her good girl ways.
DeleteI tend to feel drained when I go out too. I just allow for it — it’s part of the process and no big deal. ❤️
ReplyDeleteEverything is a big deal to me, Cheerful!
DeleteI do not think you need to change anything...kitty is gorgeous and both of you are lucky to have each other.
ReplyDeleteWell, e, maybe a few things! Frieda is an unusual girl.
DeleteI find being out tires me out now too, or maybe it always did but I didn't realize it. Going anywhere with Katie is tiring.
ReplyDeleteOur tortiseshell cat bit me hard the other night. I heard her screaming in the back yard and went to get her. She can't get out of our yard but other cats can get in. When I went to pick her up I obviously scared the crap out of her and she bit me. I have three puncture wounds that I cleaned and have kept a close eye on.
Frieda is my first tortie. I always heard they were 'different' and yes, yes they are. She really bit hard, Pixie. I know it's not good to spend so much time alone, except for Mark, but I get too comfortable with it.
DeleteI would love to taste that custard about now. Don't give up on going out....you can do it. Something good can be found in so many places.
ReplyDeleteIt's so good, Lori. You are the queen of social activity, Lori.
DeleteI hope you manage to chill like Frieda.
ReplyDeleteI've definitely learned to chill, AC.
DeleteI absolutely love your cat! Sad to hear she holds a grudge...a few do, as I have seen. Thankfully I haven't had one who did, but I have a couple of friends who had one and boy, it can be rough.
ReplyDeleteHer grudges don't last forever, Linda. But if she gets mad you are punished for awhile!
DeleteThe older I get the less I want to hang out with people in person. My time at work with alllll those wild people is enough for me every day. By the end of the week I'm really drained, and it's not lack of sleep or too much physical labor. It's being around other humans.
ReplyDeleteHaha, I can also hold a grudge, but if I attempted to lie on our laundry equipment, I'd probably fall off and make a spectacle of myself. Which might bring more people into my presence. Who needs that?
Ami, you are with people, little people, all day. I think you would be an alien if you didn't come home drained.
DeletePlease post a photo when you lounge on your washing machine!
You are serious like that pretty kitty:) Hope you find a balance. Sometimes I get tired of peopling:)
ReplyDeleteThat's why I have furrows in my brow, Far Side. 😉
DeleteI also tend to feel mentally exhausted after socialising. But then so does a natural chatterbox like Jenny. I think socialising can be hard work for anyone.
ReplyDeleteRemember a few years ago being introverted became a 'thing'? It drove me nuts. I am very comfortable alone, which is a problem, nick. I need to find a happy medium.
DeleteI don't like crowds especially in strange places. But I don't mind visiting with folks. My hubby was a hermit married to a social person.
ReplyDeleteWe mad it work.
You be you. That is what I love about you.
I'm not shy or antisocial. I am opinionated and have no trouble expressing my self around people. What happens is later, I'm drained. It's so much worse now because I am basically isolated. At first because I couldn't do anything about it and now because I'm quite settled in. I have always been a loner, but not living a life alone. You know what I mean? I wish you lived within driving distance, Val. So close yet very far away.
DeleteWhen I am with people I am quite social and overly talkative...but they have also always exhausted me. I have always preferred one-on-one visits or a very small group of people when I do socialize. I've had a strong loner streak since I was a kid. Have always needed my alone time to recharge and relax. When I am with people they would describe me as an extrovert, I'm sure. Yet they say when people wear you out, you are fine alone, and enjoy your own company that you are an introvert. I think I lean much more strongly to introvert but I am both. The proof is when covid isolation goes practically unnoticed in your life--lol! ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm the same way, Rita. Introversion doesn't mean shy or antisocial. I see it as being comfortable alone. Covid isolation didn't make a difference in my life, either, Rita. Except I started ordering groceries.
DeleteI forgot about total wine.
ReplyDeleteI started shopping there because they have a large selection of non alcohol wine, Dora.
DeleteI understand the exhaustion from being out among people. When I was performing regularly, I found myself completely drained after every performance. I sometimes did 3 or more shows in a day, so you can imagine how very done I was at the end of the day. Sometimes I would do a whole week like that. Exhausted doesn't begin to describe the way I would feel at the end of such a run! At the same time I enjoyed the interactions and sharing the songs and stories. Still, when I laid it down the relief I felt was indescribable. If I ever got back into it I would certainly do things differently.
ReplyDeleteGrocery shopping is my most fave of all the shoppings! For realz.
ReplyDeleteSince we have just spent 9 days traveling with a large tour group being home in our apt is wonderful. We manage to spend time doing our things quite easily even in a small space. People would describe us both as extroverts, but secretly we’re the opposite and enjoy our own company. Patrick claims it’s because he was an only child. I have a brother, but we did not “hang” together.
ReplyDeleteI came from a small family without family members in my life, so maybe Patrick has it right, Dorothy.
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