The sum total of my day.
Pretty much. It was dreary and chilly yesterday and it's the same today. I think spring may be coming next week. Stay tuned. I've been feeling pretty good. The Celebrex has been a godsend for me. I'm feeling really quite hopeful. It was nice to have a quiet day because I felt like it as opposed to because I am in pain. Score one for me!
Now that I can do more I'm going to try implementing, slowly, my longtime habits which went far by the wayside for four years. One of those years not because of pain, but because my mother had died. I had the job of going through and clearing out sixty-two years of life in the house. It took eight months. Don't do that to your kids. I'm talking mostly to myself. I am an orderly person. My friend, who is a psychiatric nurse, has told me he believes my need for control (order) is due to my abusive mother and the unpredictable life I had with her behavior. I believe he is right about this. I'm feeling good, so far this morning, and think I will start with the most un-orderly parts of the house and move onward from there. That's the plan anyway. In the meantime I will do some blog reading whilst I have my coffee.
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This all sounds like good forward movement. I aim to make life easier for my son, too. I helped clear the house of a friend, along with her sisters, and everyone involved swore they wouldn't do that to their families! She left two houses and an apartment stuffed with the results of shopping. Good stuff, little to throw away but gads, the work of disposing!
I'm so sorry. I was the only one who lived in town when my 92 year old grandmother died and I had to clear basement, 2 floors and an attic in a house she lived in for over 70 years. Then my mother's 3 story condo sold the first day on the market and I had to bring all three floors to my house (garage, storage) to sort. I am slowly going through my own house so I don't leave it for my children. I do have my financial affairs in order, purchased my plot and stone and have a folder with all necessary information. You learn when you have to do it what you don't want them to go through.
Boud, you have been doing quite well at winnowing. I have been at it bit-by-bit over years but I am amazed at how much there is. We will empty out the mountain paint, etc, in the basement next week. The township has a toxic waste disposal next Saturday. There is a lot of it. That will make a huge dent.
Whoa, Miss Merry, that's a lot! You've got the important items taken care of, that's important. We are to be cremated, so no need for a plot. You are so right, after 8 months of my life went to that task I don't want my son to remember me that way.
We probably have too much stuff around but much of it is in clearly labelled boxes and bins. The winter stuff gets stored and the summer stuff comes out. Or the autumn decs get put away while we put out the Christmas stuff.
I know what you mean! When I have days with less pain I often want to just relax and enjoy it--and not do a lot so as to set it off for the next day--ROFL!
I have a need to be very organized also. I always thought it could be from my unpredictable childhood. Makes sense. Spent all of 2023 pushing myself to purge and pack what I could for my move this year. It was a long arduous (painful) process but feels so good to have winnowed down possessions and have less to move. Only problem is...living in the UNorganized chaos in the meantime. Stressful for those of us who like to have control of our surroundings--lol! I will be so glad when I am finally moved and can get it all organized and find a proper place for everything again. And I will discover what I donated, trashed, or packed away--LOL! ;)
I can totally understand your childhood and I used to have OCD really bad...sometime when I am stressed I have it still but mostly I keep it under control. I WILL NOT take eight months to finish up clearing out the totes from my Moms stuff. It is incredible the stuff she kept and this is the third or fourth time I have handled it. Sorting for garage sale, packing it up for move to apartment, packing up for move to the Nursing Home into storage and out of storage to my house. Thank goodness I can see the end in sight! Many times I begged he to throw stuff away...and that is exactly why she didn't.
Score for you for sure. I love that it's helping you not hurt.
So sorry about your mom passing. That is a big job to go through a lifetime of things.
There is a very good book titled, The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning by Margareta Magnusson. To me, a very, very well written book with lots of good stories, emotions and a bit of her drawings to boot.
Now onto your bread! OMG!!!! It looks wonderful. I love it.
My mum was a serious hoarder, and it took months to clear out her final flat. Her financial affairs were a huge problem as she had literally dozens of bank accounts and the bank statements weren't properly filed, they were scattered everywhere. When either Jenny or myself dies the other will have a lot to sort out, even though we try to keep all our possessions to the absolute minimum. House-clearing is no joke.
AC, having things in labeled boxes does help a lot. Where does all of this come from? ;)
Rita, hopefully you will move soon so you can get your life back together.
I am finding more people come from dysfunctional/abusive childhoods than I ever would have thought. There are lasting effects.
Pain can control your life. I am hopeful I get to control my life again!
Sounds familiar Far Side. I should have said the opposite of what I meant, she may have then done what I really wanted! You've moved that stuff often enough, I'm glad you are almost through it.
Thanks, Ivy.
It was time, she was old and sick and had burned most of her bridges. She seems to have had a peaceful death.
I have and have read that book. She has a lot of humor! I should reread it. The bread is good, whole grain.
It sounds like you had a right mess, nick. That had to take a long time to clear out. House clearing is no joke, so I need to buckle down and try to clear some of the things I don't use or need. It is hard to part with stuff.
I am so happy for you that the medication is working. I hope it continues to be of benefit.
I enjoyed seeing the photos of your son and his beloved Homer.I hope he has a wonderful 50 th year.
Take Care,
Kaye
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Kaye, you and me both! I feel almost human. The decade of 50s was a good one for me, so I also hope it is for him.
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